It has been five years since Maureen has passed away.
Chris upon reflection of Maureen's 55th birthday on January 7, 2010 and on the fifth year of her death wrote -
I only wish it were the weather that got me down. No – it’s related to that string of birthdays ending in ‘7.
So I have now had 5 birthdays without Maureen and while they are all different and less outwardly painful, I’ve also reached the point where I accept that this is the way its going to be. It doesn’t mean that I like it, though; and I realized that what I most disliked about this “holiday season” was the fact that I had lots of ideas of gifts that I thought she would like and no one to give them to, or to see enjoy them.
I also know that the likelihood of me allowing anyone to compare favorably in view not only of her interests and abilities, but most of all our shared experience is pretty low; so I’m just waiting for the days to get longer and the calendar to turn the page.
Message from Professor Victor Romero
The Maureen B. Cavanaugh Distinguished Faculty Scholar and Professor of Law
Penn State Law School
"Thank you for the opportunity to share a few thoughts in remembrance of Maureen's anniversary. Thank you, too, for the tremendous work you've done on Maureen's memorial, a truly fitting tribute to an exceptional person and a life well-lived.
More than anything, the Cavanaugh scholarship has inspired me to try as best I can to live up to the high ideals Maureen set for herself, personally and professionally. Intellectual rigor, curiosity, perseverance, service, and empathy are all virtues I associate with Maureen, and I am deeply honored to have the opportunity to pursue them, hopefully with the same vigor and conviction she displayed. I am most grateful to Chris Plum, Phil McConnaughay, and all of Maureen's friends for continuing to allow me the privilege to serve as the Maureen B. Cavanaugh Distinguished Faculty Scholar.
Maureen June 1971
Northen Minnesota August 1971
Summer of 1971 - Phtotography Outing
Maureen and Puppy
1991 boat excursion
April 4, 2010
It has been five long years for you now. So much has changed in our world. We have a different Pope who vainly clings to the past. - A new President who promised the moon and has given the middle class nothing but dreams. Gasoline has double in price and there is little hope of retirement for millions. You have moved three times since April 4, 2005. Candy and I have moved twice. You are back in Minnesota and we are in South Carolina. Life has moved on in ways we could not see.
However, your love for your lost wife continues to be strong. I had hoped in due time you could find another to love. The fact that you are still solitary is due mostly to the fact that Bridget represented the best of being human and cultured. The beauty of the past still shined in her mind while so many were ignorant and drowning in America’s shallow contemporary mass culture. I am sorry that fate or chance has not led you to discovering another miracle of intelligence and charm. It makes me realize how precious my wife is. It has increased my hatred of death and fear of losing a life mate who makes most women look rather common. At the end of the day it would be hard to ever smile.
I admire your strength and ability to rebuild your life and happiness. I admire your continued insistence on truth. As Bridget’s eternity continues, I hope your life will continue to reveal the wonders of this living Universe to your intelligence. There is still so much more to see, hear, and read. But most of all there is so much to feel.